A free newsletter by BJ Madewell
DIAGNOSIS ADD ADHD Now What?
Published 10th, 20th & 30th of each month
PLEASE SEE DISCLAIMER AT THE END OF THIS DOCUMENT!
RESPECT
NOVEMBER 30, 2002
Statements we hear growing up ==>
"Respect your elders"
"Show your mother some respect"
"Write those
thank you notes NOW!"
"You can't wear that, your grandmother will faint if she sees you in that
get-up"
The term respect means to be mindful, to pay attention, to show consideration, to avoid intruding upon and to avoid violating.
The thesaurus lists revere, think a lot of, admire, high opinion, value, appreciate, as synonyms for respect.
How do children develop the trait of "having respect"?
It seems that respect is one of those skills that must be modeled to be taught. Adults who respect children will model that respect in their positive actions and interactions with children. Respect for children involves teaching them without shaming, embarrassing, intimidating or degrading them. Teaching with respect involves believing that children want to be successful, happy, productive people.
Think about it, have you ever REALLY THOUGHT a child "Didn't study for the test because he wanted to flunk it?". Do you truthfully believe a child "just did it to make me mad". Perhaps your perception of the child's view is skewed.
There is a REASON for all behavior. We may not understand the reason or accept it but there IS A REASON! Disrespect may stem from frustration, inattention, feeling ill, misunderstanding or confusion. ADDers suffer from these problems on a daily basis. Realize that their disrespect may, in fact, be a manifestation of trying to cope with ADD/ADHD symptoms. Naturally, this is not an excuse for rudeness, talking back, or throwing fits but it is a reason.
A few excellent sites on RESPECT:
University
of Maine Cooperative Extension
Bulletin #8050 Children
and Respect
http://www.umext.maine.edu/onlinepubs/htmpubs/8050.htm
Lesson Plans - teaching character skills
http://www.charactercounts.org/ideas/ideatoc.htm
IT'S YOUR CHOICE
Be a good model, be respectful.
Visit some of the above sites.
PLEASE VISIT MY WEBSITE
When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.
DISCLAIMER
This information is for educational purposes only. Much of then information is from classes and workshops I've taken during my 30+ years of working with ADD & ADHD students - sprinkled with my own comments, thoughts and insights
Some information is acquired from the INTERNET. Be aware that not all information on the WWW is accurate. Use your own judgment. This information is not intended to replace information from your doctor, therapist, lawyer, psychologist, nutritionist or psychiatrist. Consult your child's (or your own) doctor for additional input.
Editor: BJ Madewell
Wichita, KS area
316-733-9532
FAX not available
Email ADDchoices@aol.com or ADDchoices@yahoo.com
You may copy and print this newsletter for your own use and freely distribute it to others. You cannot sell this information. It is
FREE.
Please include my email address & phone # on anything you give to others.
Please fwd to others who may benefit.
BJ
Madewell