THE ADULTS HAVE IT
MAY 2005
Life got in the way of doing the last few newsletters
DIAGNOSIS ADD ADHD Now What?
Published 10th, 20th & 30th of each month -- USUALLY
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The number of adults contacting ADDChoices for assistance for themselves has grown in the last few months.
Traditional treatment for adult ADDers is similar to that for children. The major problem with adult ADDers seems to be denial. Even with an accurate diagnosis, spousal and anecdotal "proof" -- adult ADD/ADHD is frequently denied. If not outright denied, the adult ADDer tends to be of the opinion that medication and treatment are not necessary. A common statement is "I can handle this myself."
It is usually the spouse (or Significant Other SO* ) that suffers to such an extent that the ADDer seeks an evaluation at their insistence. Understand that an adult with ADD/ADHD has coped with this problem for so long that they sincerely do not understand what the problem is. Their life has been in this state forever and it is difficult to recognize that life should - could be different.
What kinds of treatment work for adult ADDers?
MEDICATION This is extremely helpful once the proper medication, dosage and frequency is determined. Unfortunately, if the initial medication doesn't provide the expected results, many adult ADDers do not return to the physician for follow-up appointments and possible medication changes/adjustments. At this point in treatment, disappointed adult ADDers tend to discredit the whole idea of even being ADD/ADHD because "the medication didn't help me so I'm not ADD/ADHD" -- denial..
Without medication, other treatments are not as effective but they can be advantageous.
THERAPY Generally speaking, without having the attention and commitment of the ADDer, therapy is useless. With medication, therapy can work wonders!
COACHING The coach assists in developing goals, methods to attain goals, assistance in reflection of actions, etc. The ADDer becomes accountable to the coach as the two of you strive to make life better for you. Again, this treatment is more apt to be successful if the ADDer is on the proper medication.
ACCOMMODATIONS These are rarely used by adult ADDers as they fear informing employers of their attention deficit disorder difficulties will jeopardize their job. However, if handled correctly, things can be "tweaked" to make the workday more productive and, in fact, more enjoyable for the adult with ADD/ADHD.
SUPPORT GROUPS When you find a good one, a support group for adults can be informative, uplifting and inspiring. There are some on the Internet that have turned into gripe sessions but others are truly lifesavers for those dealing with adult ADD.
BOOKS Reading about adult ADD is helpful. However, I've found that some books give more information explaining what ADD/ADHD is, than assisting the sufferer in developing ways to cope. There are books specifically written for adult ADDers but again, actual strategies to assist the person are lacking. Self help books appear to have workable answers but due to the inability to follow through, distractibility, and all the other hallmarks of ADD/ADHD -- self-help books are generally not helpful except for short periods of "hyper-focusing" on the techniques presented - unless properly medicated <grin>.
IT'S YOUR CHOICE
As more and more adults realize they may be ADD/ADHD -- these people need to be educated about the pitfalls, positive aspects and treatments available. When denied, ignored, and/or not treated ADD/ADHD can wreak havoc in adult's lives. ADD/ADHD impacts work, earning power, friendships, marriage and relationships -- especially with their children.
I realize this sounds extremely gloomy but the reality is that adults with untreated ADD/ADHD usually have a great deal of difficulty finding the means to fulfill their true potential in life, work, and relationships.
DISCLAIMER
This information is for educational purposes only. Much of the information is from classes and workshops I’ve taken during my 33 years of working with ADD & ADHD students – sprinkled with my own comments, thoughts and insights.
Some information has been acquired from the INTERNET. Be aware that not all information on the WWW is accurate. Use your own judgment.
This information is not intended to replace information from your doctor, therapist, lawyer, psychologist, nutritionist or psychiatrist. Consult your child’s (or your own) doctor for additional input
Editor: BJ Madewell
Wichita, KS area
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